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My husband is ill..

He lies in bed, in the dark.

I try to keep the children quiet.

I try to keep them from disturbing him.

I try to get them to sleep without too much fuss.

When all is peace,

I tiptoe into the room.

I feel his forehead for signs of a fever.

I ask him if he needs anything.

He needs to drink fluids, Vitamin C.

I know this.

And I also know he won't ask..

So I go to the kitchen,

put the kettle on..

I mix him a drink..

lemon to fight the cold germs,

honey to soothe his sore throat,

fresh mint leaves to lift the taste a little.

I say 'Bismillah' before I pour the hot water,

make a little prayer for his well being, before taking it to him.

He smiles through his discomfort.

I have brought him ease.

But I wave away his thanks. It is nothing.

I am his wife.

That's what I'm here to do..

Some may sneer at these small acts of kindness.

Some may shake their heads pityingly at this description of servitude.

But they don't understand my life or my motivations.

They do not know,

do not understand that I married my husband for the sake of Allah.

Our goal,

from the outset of a marriage arranged by mutual friends,

was to help each other to attain Paradise.

Nothing more or nothing less..

We went about our marriage the traditional Islamic way.

We didn't date,

we didn't cohabit,

we didn't spend any time alone.

We met a few times, in the company of my guardian,

asked each other innumerable questions,

discussed every issue that was important to us.

My husband flew halfway across the world to obtain my parents' consent

and we were married,

with a marriage contract and a mahr (dowry paid to the bride)

but no pomp or ceremony, in a room in Baker Street.

To be sure,

an Islamic marriage is quite different from that of other faiths

or of no faith at all.

There are roles and responsibilities to be taken care of,

rules and guidelines to be followed.

These rules are in place to promote a smoother partnership

and a union that is pleasing to God.

Many of these rules and guidelines may seem old-fashioned,

restrictive even,

particularly in an age of ever-evolving morals and mores.

But as guidelines set down for us in the Qur'an,

the Book of Allah,

we trust in His wisdom and we live by His strictures.

These teachings help us set our priorities straight.

They help us to tame our ego.

They show us to how to give selflessly,

expecting our reward from God alone.

They teach us to be patient and gentle with each other.

They teach us how to be loyal and faithful in word,

thought and deed.

They teach us to be grateful for the small mercies,

for the little kindnesses,

for the barely noticeable gestures that embroider our lives together.

These are lessons we are learning every day.

I know that one day,

maybe tomorrow,

maybe fifty years from now,

I will return to my Lord and then,

only my good deeds will count for anything.

Only my selfless deeds,

performed for the sake of God,

will accompany me.

Of course,

some may say that I am painting an overly rosy picture.

They will quote stories they've heard,

articles they have read,

prejudices they have formed.

All these could be true.

Or they could not be.

I can only speak my truth.

I can only tell my story.

My husband's fever has broken.

I smile and praise Allah.

It is nothing. That is what we are here to do.

-Na'ima B. Robert-

Na'ima B. Robert is author of From my Sisters' Lips , a look at the lives of Muslim women. She is founder and editor of SISTERS , the magazine for fabulous Muslim women. Her latest children's book, Ramadan Moon, is published by Frances Lincoln

SORI SYAITAN..HARI NI AKU MENANG!

Apakah kat tubuh badan ini yg menjadi hak milik kita

Rambut??

adakah stiap hari kita menetapkan berapa inci kepanjangannya bertambah..nak straight atau sedikit circle di penghujungnya..atau tarikh yg sesuai untuk rambut bertukar kaler putih(uban)

jawapannya sudah tentu tidak..sebab kita x boleh control

Ini menunjukkn sesuatu yang x boleh dkontrol ini bukanlah milik kita

Apa yg milik kita?

Ya.. hak memilih

Contoh..seandainya suatu detik ketika sedang studi tiba2 kita terasa nk main game..rasanya kita dah cukup besar untuk kita tau akan ada 2 consequence

A-letak target untuk main game sekadar 15 minit..bila melepasi 15 minit,terasa masa sangat sekejap..ya tambah lagi 5 minit...5 minit kemudian,baik,malam masih muda..apakata aku main sejam dua..kemudian malam nih x payah tido

kemudian bila terasa puas main..kita stop..dan semangat tuk studi juga akan hilang dgn sendirinya a.k.a MALAS

maka ...ahh tido la..esok masih ada

atau

B-NO,NO DAN NO...TIDAK BOLEH..pengorbanan meninggalkan ibu ayah jauh.. terlalu besar untuk aku bazirkan masa aku tuk main game..sedangkan mereka saban waktu merindukan aku,mendoakan aku...

Lalu,keluar sebentar ke bilik kawan(10 minit)..kemudian kembali meneruskan tanggungjawab..dan IA semakin bersemangat

Pilihla yg mana satu..nk trus hidup begini..hari2 menabung tompok hitam atau kita nk pastikan hati kita sentiasa bersih

Nk jadi org biasa atau luar biasa

“nak terus bangun atau tidak

nak terus dgr kata syaitan atau

LAWAN!

sesungguhnya orang Mukmin itu apabila berbuat dosa akan ada di dalam hatinya bintik hitam, seandainya ia bertaubat, maka akan hilang bintik hitamnya; dan apabila ia menambah nescaya akan bertambah (bintik hitam tersebut), sehingga akan menutup hatinya” (QS Al-Muthafiffin [83]: 14)

Ya..mmg payah..nk lawan nafsu

Sbnrnya x pyh lawan pun...ALLAH bukannya zalim..lepas diberi tiba2 nk suruh kita buang

Tapi ALLAH suruh kita control

Dan nikmat kejayaan mgkontrol diri itu teramatlah besar...satu kejayaan yg terbesar..biar la bende tu bkn effect dunia pun..tapi yg penting kita dah melepasi satu tahap..berjaya tewaskan syaitan kali nih..YES!

Kita sentiasa ada 2 pilihan –NAK ke XNAK..ya biarpun kadangkala ada 5/6 pilihan spt ketika mjawab soklan mde(objektif)

Dan org yg tau memilih..slalunya kita katakn sbb hatinya boleh menapis

Ya itulah iman kita...kejayaan kita memilih yg baik tergantung pada iman kita hari nih

Samada semakin baik dari smalam..tau bagaimana

Namun jika diperhatikan,ada satu persoalan yg perlu kita selesaikan terlebih dahulu..

Iaitu LANGKAH PERTAMA

Sepertimana dalam karangan..introduction la bahagian yg paling payah sekali

Begitu juga dalam proses untuk kita meninggalkan perkara2 mungkar

Langkah pertama sangat sukar

Dan MUSUH utama LANGKAH PERTAMA ini adalah PENUNDAAAN

IMAM ALI pernah berkata:

"saat" itu hanya ada tiga, iaitu (yang) berlalu dan tak dapat diharapkan lagi, maka jadikanlah ia sebagai pelajaran; (yang) kini pasti adanya, jadikanlah ia peluang; dan yang akan datang, tapi ingatlah, boleh jadi ia akan menjadi milik orang lain. Pegang yang pasti, jangan diperdaya oleh esok, dan jangan pula menghadirkan keresahan esok ke hari ini. Kerana, yang demikian itu hanya akan menambah beban diri

Memang Benar sekali bila Islam melarang menunda tugas saat ini ke "sebentar lagi", juga amal ini ke "esok". Sebab, kita tidak tahu apa yang ada di balik "sebentar", "esok", atau "nanti" itu.

Maka bersegeralah..bila terdetik untuk melakukan amal kebaikan@meninggalkan amal kejahatan

Bimbang ALLAH tarik semula rasa nak buat

Bimbang kesempatan itu tidak berulang

Dan bimbang sekiranya tiada lagi hari esok